If your partner acts controlling, aggressive, coercive or violent in any way, you are in an unhealthy or abusive relationship. You can be in an abusive relationship even if there's no physical abuse; abuse can also be verbal, emotional, mental, or sexual. Domestic violence doesn't look the same in every relationship, but one thing abusive relationships have in common is that the abusive partner does a variety of things to have power and control over their partners. If things are happening that are frightening or violent, chances are it will happen again, even if your partner promises that it won't. You don't have control over your partner's behavior, but you do have control over how you prepare and respond to abusive situations.
Has your partner done any of these things to you?
Pushed or shoved you
Held you or kept you from leaving
Slapped or kicked you
Bit or choked you
Hit or punched you
Thrown objects at you
Threatened to hurt you with a weapon
Emotional Abuse
Ignored your feelings
Ridiculed you or insulted your most valued beliefs
Withheld approval, appreciation or affection as punishment
Continually criticized you, called you names, or shouted at you
Insulted or drove away your family, friends, co-workers to isolate you
Humiliated you in public or private
Refused to let you work or share money
Took your car keys, cell phone, or money
Regularly threatened to leave or told you to leave
Threatened to hurt you or your family
Abused children or pets to hurt you
Harassed you about affairs he/she imagined you were having
Manipulated you with lies and contradictions
Sexual Abuse
Very jealous or angry, assuming that you are cheating
Insisted you dress in a way that you don't feel comfortable with
Minimized the importance of your feelings about sex
Criticized you sexually
Called you sexual names
Publicly showed sexual interest in others in front of you
Had affairs after agreeing to a monogamous relationship
Forced sex with him/her or others, forced sex after hurting you
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City of Huntington Beach
Police Department
2000 Main Street
Huntington Beach, CA
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(714) 960-8825
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(714) 960-8811
Fax: (714) 536-5605
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