Domestic Violence

Domestic Violence Information and ResourcesIf your partner acts controlling, aggressive, coercive, or violent in any way, you are in an unhealthy or abusive relationship. You can be in an abusive relationship even if there's no physical abuse; abuse can also be verbal, emotional, mental, or sexual. Domestic violence doesn't look the same in every relationship, but one thing abusive relationships have in common is that the abusive partner does a variety of things to have power and control over their partners. If things are happening that are frightening or violent, chances are it will happen again, even if your partner promises that it won't. You don't have control over your partner's behavior, but you do have control over how you prepare and respond to abusive situations.

Has your partner done any of these things to you?

  • Pushed or shoved you
  • Held you or kept you from leaving
  • Slapped or kicked you
  • Bit or choked you
  • Hit or punched you
  • Thrown objects at you
  • Threatened to hurt you with a weapon
Emotional Abuse

  • Ignored your feelings
  • Ridiculed you or insulted your most valued beliefs
  • Withheld approval, appreciation, or affection as punishment
  • Continually criticized you, called you names, or shouted at you
  • Insulted or drove away your family, friends, and co-workers to isolate you
  • Humiliated you in public or private
  • Refused to let you work or share money
  • Took your car keys, cell phone, or money
  • Regularly threatened to leave or told you to leave
  • Threatened to hurt you or your family
  • Abused children or pets to hurt you
  • Harassed you about affairs he/she imagined you were having
  • Manipulated you with lies and contradictions
Sexual Abuse

  • Very jealous or angry, assuming that you are cheating
  • Insisted you dress in a way that you don't feel comfortable with
  • Minimized the importance of your feelings about sex
  • Criticized you sexually
  • Called you sexual names
  • Publicly showed sexual interest in others in front of you
  • Had affairs after agreeing to a monogamous relationship
  • Forced sex with him/her or others, forced sex after hurting you
Domestic Violence Information and Resources
Children and Domestic Violence

When you're a parent in an unhealthy or abusive relationship, it makes a difficult situation even harder. Not only do you have to worry about your safety, but you also have to consider your child's well-being. For example, your abusive partner may hurt you in front of the children or try to use your children against you. If this happens, try to talk to your child to let them know this is not ok. Although you may be in a tough situation, remember that your child and your safety are important and come first. Witnessing domestic violence can have a huge impact on children, both physically and psychologically. They may grow up believing that domestic violence is normal and mimic the behaviors they witnessed in their parent's relationship. Violence in the home causes emotional trauma, fear, anxiety, feelings of powerlessness, helplessness, worthlessness, low self-esteem, isolation, stress, and depression. Children who experience violence in their home:

  • Learn to solve conflicts, problems, and frustrations with violence
  • Learn to maintain control of people by using violence and threats
  • Become angry and aggressive with peers, adults, animals, and inanimate objects
  • Confuse love and violence
  • Have problems accepting authority
  • Have a low tolerance for frustration
  • Grow up to be victims or abusers of their intimate partners or children
HBPD Victim Advocate
HB Police Department Victims Advocate  (714)-536-5957

The victim advocate at the Huntington Beach Police Department can assist victims of domestic violence during the criminal justice process. California law provides victims with important rights. If you are a victim of a crime, you may contact the victim advocate at the police department, who can answer questions about the criminal justice system and the status of your case. The HBPD victim advocate can assist you with the following:

  • Explaining Marsy's Law Victims' Bill of Rights
  • Explaining what information you are entitled to receive while proceedings are pending
  • Applying for possible reimbursement and/or restitution to compensate you for certain crime-related losses
  • Communicating with the prosecution (if applicable)
  • Assistance with completing a victim impact statement (if applicable) before an offender is sentenced
  • Offer referrals for support services
Restraining Orders
As a victim of domestic violence, you have the right to request a temporary restraining order that:

  • Restrains the perpetrator from hurting you, your children, or family members involved
  • Directs the perpetrator to leave the home
  • Prevents the perpetrator from going to your home, school, business, or place of employment
  • Awards custody of, or visitation with, a minor child and protects the child(ren) from that person
  • Directs child support of minor children and other financial responsibilities
  • Directs that either or both parties participate in counseling
You can get free assistance in obtaining a restraining order at:

Lamoreaux Justice Center
341 The City Drive, Orange, CA
Waymakers Domestic Violence Assistance Program
(714) 935-7956 or (714) 935-6175
Information for Victims of Domestic Violence

In many cases, police officers have the authority to arrest someone suspected of inflicting injury upon another person. If the offender goes to jail, he/she may be released at any time due to legal constraints or by posting bail. If the offender was taken to the Huntington Beach Jail, you may contact (714) 536-5691 for custody status information. If the offender is taken to the Orange County Jail, you may contact Victim Information Notification Everyday (VINE) for custody status information. VINE is a free service designed to automatically notify victims by phone when the perpetrator is released from OCJ. To register for VINE, call (877) 411-5588.

Once a crime report is taken, a detective will be assigned to your case and may contact you, if necessary, for further information. You may ask the detective assigned to your case to file the case with the Orange County District Attorney's Office. However, in the State of California, victims are not responsible for "pressing charges," and the decision will be made by the DA's Office. You have the right to have an advocate and/or support person of your choice present with you during further interviews related to this crime. Please contact the Victim Advocate at the HBPD for more information at (714) 536-5957.

You have the right to file a civil suit for losses suffered as a result of the crime, such as medical expenses, loss of earnings, and other expenses for injuries sustained and property damage. Information about the civil suit process can be found at Self-Help Civil.

If you or someone in your family suffered an injury or death as a result of a violent crime, you may qualify for compensation from the State of California's Victim Compensation Program. You may contact a victim advocate or the Victim Compensation Program for more information at (800) 777-9229. Victims of domestic violence may be eligible for temporary placement in a shelter. Please contact Interval House Crisis Shelter at (714) 891-8121.

California Victims' Bill of Rights: Marsy's Law
The California Constitution, Article 1, Section 28(b), confers certain rights to victims of crime. Those rights include:

  1. Fairness and Respect: To be treated with fairness and respect for his or her privacy and dignity, and to be free from intimidation, harassment, and abuse, throughout the criminal or juvenile justice process.
  2. Protection from the Defendant : To be reasonably protected from the defendant and persons acting on behalf of the defendant.
  3. Victim Safety Considerations in Setting Bail and Release Conditions: To have the safety of the victim and the victim's family considered in fixing the amount of bail and release conditions for the defendant.
  4. The Prevention of the Disclosure of Confidential Information: To prevent the disclosure of confidential information or records to the defendant, the defendant's attorney, or any other person acting on behalf of the defendant, which could be used to locate or harass the victim or the victim's family or which disclose confidential communications made in the course of medical or counseling treatment, or which are otherwise privileged or confidential by law.
  5. Refusal to be Interviewed by the Defense: To refuse an interview, deposition, or discovery request by the defendant, the defendant's attorney, or any other person acting on behalf of the defendant, and to set reasonable conditions on the conduct of any such interview to which the victim consents.
  6. Conference with the Prosecution and Notice of Pretrial Disposition: To reasonable notice of and to reasonably confer with the prosecuting agency, upon request, regarding, the arrest of the defendant if known by the prosecutor, the charges filed, the determination whether to extradite the defendant, and, upon request, to be notified of and informed before any pretrial disposition of the case.
  7. Notice of and Presence at Public Proceedings: To reasonable notice of all public proceedings, including delinquency proceedings, upon request, at which the defendant and the prosecutor are entitled to be present and of all parole or other post-conviction release proceedings, and to be present at all such proceedings.
  8. Appearance at Court Proceedings and Expression of Views: To be heard, upon request, at any proceeding, including any delinquency proceeding, involving a post-arrest release decision, plea, sentencing, post-conviction release decision, or any proceeding in which a right of the victim is at issue.
  9. Speedy Trial and Prompt Conclusion of the Case: To a speedy trial and a prompt and final conclusion of the case and any related post-judgment proceedings.
  10. Provision of Information to the Probation Department: To provide information to a probation department official conducting a pre-sentence investigation concerning the impact of the offense on the victim and the victim's family and any sentencing recommendations before the sentencing of the defendant.
  11. Receipt of Pre-Sentence Report: To receive, upon request, the pre-sentence report when available to the defendant, except for those portions made confidential by law.
  12. Information About Conviction, Sentence, Incarceration, Release, and Escape: To be informed, upon request, of the conviction, sentence, place and time of incarceration, or other disposition of the defendant, the scheduled release date of the defendant, and the release of or the escape by the defendant from custody.
  13. Restitution
    1.  It is the unequivocal intention of the People of the State of California that all persons who suffer losses as a result of criminal activity shall have the right to seek and secure restitution from the persons convicted of the crimes causing the losses they suffer.
    2.  Restitution shall be ordered from the convicted wrongdoer in every case, regardless of the sentence or disposition imposed, in which a crime victim suffers a loss.
    3. All monetary payments, monies, and property collected from any person who has been ordered to make restitution shall be first applied to pay the amounts ordered as restitution to the victim.
  14. The Prompt Return of Property: To the prompt return of property when no longer needed as evidence.
  15. Notice of Parole Procedures and Release on Parole: To be informed of all parole procedures, to participate in the parole process, to provide information to the parole authority to be considered before the parole of the offender, and to be notified, upon request, of the parole or other release of the offender.
  16. Safety of Victim and Public are Factors in Parole Release: To have the safety of the victim, the victim's family, and the general public considered before any parole or other post-judgment release decision is made.
  17. Information About These 16 Rights: To be informed of the rights enumerated in paragraphs (1) through (16).
Victims Resource Guide

Victim Advocate at Huntington Beach Police Department: The victim advocate provides confidential support services including case status information, orientation to the criminal justice system, restraining order information, victim compensation information, and resource and referral services. 714-536-5957

Waymakers Domestic Violence Assistance Program: assistance with filing for a temporary restraining order 714-935-7956 or 657-221-5416

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-SAFE

VINE Service Orange County Jail inmate information: 877-411-5588

Waymakers 24-hour Sexual Assault/Rape Crisis Hotline: 714-957-2737

Victim Compensation Program: 800-777-9229

California Department of Corrections and Rehabilitation, Office of Victim & Survivor Rights & Services: Provides information on offender release, restitution, parole conditions and parole hearings when the offender is incarcerated in state prison. 877-256-6877

Adult Protective Services elder abuse hotline: 800-451-5155

Orange County Child Abuse Registry hotline: 800-207-4464

Interval House Crisis Shelter: emergency hotline, counseling, and confidential shelter 714-891-8121

National Human Trafficking Resource Center hotline: 888-373-7888

Orange County Info Link: Comprehensive information and referral system linking residents to community health and human services and support 211 OR 888-600-4357

Health Care Agency Behavioral Health Services Information & Referral Line: Links callers to information and referrals for anyone seeking information or linkage to any of the HCA services 855-OC-LINKS

Orange County WarmLine: 714-991-6412

Waymakers Victim Assistance Programs: 949-250-4058

Orange County District Attorney's Office:

Orange County Superior Court:

California Courts Online Self-Help Center:

Orange County Bar Association Lawyer Referral & Information Service: 949-440-6700

Orange County Legal Aid: 714-571-5200

Orange County Family Law Facilitator: 657-622-5076